Sex Matters : Deliberate Sex

We have all been in a rut where sex is concerned. Once a love machine but then you realise it's been days..weeks or even months since you've done the deed. How do you find your way back to your partners delightful love spot?

I know you can be tempted to just reach out after a long day at night,while the kids are in bed,in the dark. BUT please,don't! After a long spell is the perfect time for what I call deliberate sex. Make it extra special. And maybe then you won't have to wait so long to get some action going on.

As always. .the following steps will help.

1. Plan for it: Pick the lucky day! Once you've decided enough is enough! This dry spell must end! And stuff..pick a day. It doesn't matter what time. Maybe a weekend when you are both a bit more relaxed.

2. Get in the mood: Now every individual has their own personal sex password. Set the mood all day. If you are together...little  touches here and there..rub against each others body, grab something!(no judgement here,lol), and generally flirt! If you are not together...sexting is a thing. And can be very very rewarding. Just do something out of the ordinary. Type something like ' tonight I want your body'. Imagine your partners mouth open? Yeah.  Something is bound to happen.

3. Do it!: After all the above foreplay...trust me,the first moment you are both alone together...you won't be able to keep your hands off each other. This is the time to go with the flow...I doubt very much you'll be able to control it. Savor it if you can by prolonging actual foreplay...but if not..just put something in something and give each other some good old fashioned pleasure!

How to Series : Applying your eyeliner.

Hello my lovelies! Hope you've all been good? Elections are next week..who will be voting and who is not? Personally I can't wait for it to be over..I'm really tired of the campaign induced traffic around Lagos!

So I've decided to start my How to series with eyeliners. I get a lot of people asking me how they can apply eyeliners. Hopefully this write up..with constant practice of course will make you a pro soonest.

There are mainly three types of eyeliners.

1. Liquid Eyeliner.

This usually comes with a pointed applicator brush. It can be a bit tricky to use but with constant practice usually gives a good finish.

2. Gel eyeliner:

This is very easy to use as it glides on easily. It is usually applied with a small angled brush to get the desired effect.

3. Pencil eyeliner:

This is perhaps the easiest form of eyeliner. All you need is a pointed tip pencil.

How to apply

Below are the steps you can use to apply eyeliner

Step 1:  Gently pull back the skin of the eye you want to work on with your left hand.

Step 2:  Place the elbow that’s holding the liner on your chest or on a table in front of you.

Step 3: Carefully draw the line. You can make small dashes instead of a straight line…just connect them when  you’re done.  Start from the middle and then extend forward.  Be sure to move your head instead of the liner as this will ensure a straight line.

Make the line as thin as possible. If you want a thicker line you can build up on it.

If you make any mistakes don’t fret! Make sure you have a Q tip and makeup remover on hand to clean up the mess…and then try and try again! You can use any of the product you're comfortable with until you've mastered it. 

Voila! You”re done!  Make sure you all try it and tell me how it went. Be sure to do it in front of a mirror.

Here i used the zaron gel liner which I absolutely love!

If you have any questions or comments please feel free to let me know..or if you have anything you want me to show you how..just comment here. 

Thanks for reading!

ttyl,

Tmon.

Weird Beauty Treatments: Which would you try?

How far are you willing to go in the name of beauty? There are some strange and bizzare beauty treatments out there that will seem extreme to some people but perfectly normal to others. I took the liberty to do some research and these are the ones I was able to come up with. Lets go on a journey to these crazy,unusual and sometimes very expensive beauty treatments.

Fish pedicure-
 This is when little fishes are used to remove dead layers of the feet. The fish actually eat the skin! Though its been banned in some parts of the world due to hygiene questions. If you are brave enough and dont mind been eaten alive,then you can go ahead and dip your feets into one of the fish tanks! Not for the squeamish.

Snail facial 
snails are put on the face to walk all over it. Literarilly. Apparently,snail slime helps protect your skin from sunburn and wrinkles. Call it snail massage. :D

Bee botox! : anyone ever seen the effect of freshly done botox treatments? Then anyone seen what a bee sting looks like? Well...some women are willing to cough up a lot of money simply to have bee venom facial. Its said to be even more effective than injections on the face. I say ouch!

Vampire Facial-
  Well...quite a bit different from what you have in mind,but bloody all the same!. Needles are used to take blood from other parts of the body and injected into the face. Its supposed to make the face look smoother. We'll have to ask Kim k if the treatment worked or not!.

Leech suck-fest -
 Not exactly what its called...but why not make leeches sound better?! As the name implies,leeches are put on the face to suck up some blood. Apparently,leeches have anti clotting properties which helps detoxify the blood. .

Crazy crazy treatments wouldn't you agree? Make sure you comment after reading this. Let me know which you've tried or would like to try..and which one you'll  never ever ever try. Let me know your views!

Ttyl,
Love,
Tmon.

Sex matters- Getting your sex life back after giving birth.

Lots of couples tend to lose their sexuality after they have kids. Some women are just too sore down there to be interested. Some men get scared that their wives sweet honey hole will just not be what it used to be. Some are just too exhausted to even think about sex. And before they all know it,their baby has started school and they wonder just how to go back to the time they couldnt keep their hands off each other.
My opinion? Its a setup. Couples unwittingly set themselves up and later realise that picking up the pieces is somewhat difficult. If you are already in this situation I'll try to give some tips that will hopefully get you back on track.

Share the same room.-
Yep. Sounds simple right? Afterall its only natural that the mum or mum in law comes around and the husband will 'excuse' himself from your room. NO! This shouldnt be the case.  Before you know it this becomes the 'norm'. Your partner will continue to sleep in another room because the baby will 'disturb' his sleep as he grows a little older. Hmnn. You need to find a way around this. Against all odds,you should make sure you both sleep on the same bed. Your sex life depends on this! Make alternative sleeping arrangements for her,even if you have to move between rooms after you feed your child.

Baby shouldn't sleep in the middle:
If you co-sleep with your child,re-arrange your room such that  your baby doesnt have to sleep between you and your husband. Soft flannels or a soft pillow can be used to guard the child from falling off the bed. Its even safer that way. The best place for a child to sleep is in a crib in your room..but I wont judge because I co-sleep sometimes too. So, re-arrange and spoon away with your lover. Theres nothing as sexy as feeling his hard-on as you wiggle your behind against him. 😆.

Plan to have sex:
Having sex after a baby is like having sex for the first time. So..it should be special. Once the doctor has given you the thumbs up to do the deed...you need to set the mood. Chances are you're both so exhausted from taking care of the baby anyway. So..you need to first talk about it. Make him realise it wont be bad and you're ready. Make her realise you're going to be gentle and take it slow. And this leads to the next point.

Take it slow-
Her body has changed. Her breasts are fuller and filled with milk. Her hormornes are still all over the place,her vagina or her belly is still a bit sore from pushing your baby out or her csection...but she misses lovemaking as much as you do. So..take it slow. This is not the time for wham bang. Foreplay is key. Get her soft and pliant. If you need lubrication..dont be shy to go for it. Take it real slow. Touch her. Love her. You know what i mean na. Wink.

Get your sexy back-
Having a baby doesnt give you the right to tie wrapper from morning till night. You need to break out those short dresses (breastfeeding friendly) and bum shorts. Have sex in your mind first before doing the deed. Give him an eyefull and let your body tell him you're ready. Everyman wants his wife to be a hot mama. True your body has changed. Your strechmarks are your battle scars. You brought life into the world. You should wear them confidently and with pride.  Love your body. .and your husband will love it too.

I hope I've been able to touch the important points. Please feel free to drop your comments..and dont forget to subscribe by email and follow so you dont miss any of the exciting topics I have in store for you. Did someone say sex tips? I've got you covered! Just watch out.

Ttyl,
Love,
Tmon.

Sex Matters: Why you need to have lots of sex.

It breaks my heart when I come across some women who hate sex. Sex is a wobderful thing and as far as i'm concerned not liking it is limiting your God given potential. God created sex. He created man and woman with the facilities needed to have sex. If he didnt want us to do it...then maybe women would have been created vaginaless..and men would have had to find other creative uses for thier penises. (Yep...I said it). But thank God He created man and woman to be perfect for each other. Everything God created is good. SEX IS GOOD.

Below are some of the reasons why you need to have sex...and lots of it.

To consumate your relationship:

I'm not talking about the unhealthy childishness of 'if you love me you'll let me'. That comment deserves a hot slap. I'm talking of matured Godly relationships aka marriage.  Sex cements a union. It says I am yours, and you are mine. It ties one soul with another. Infact according to a lawyer friend, not having sex in a union is enough reason for a divorce.

To bond:

Sex allows partners to bond with each other. Thats the closest anyone can get to another living being. Its not only a bonding of two bodies...but its the bonding of two souls. This actually makes the relationship stronger.

To release tension:

Yep. You read that right. Sex helps release tension. After an hectic day or week that didnt go as planned, sex can be just the thing you need. Your body tends to relax...well afterwards. And in those perfect moments you concentrate on nothing but your partner and forget all the worries of the world.

To procreate:

Unfortunately, this is the reason most people have sex. Its a reason...but it shouldnt be the main reason! But then...it has to be on our list.

To have fun:

Well... some generations do call lovemaking 'fun'. Sex can be playful. Just enjoying and marvelling at your partners body. It shouldnt be all serious business. So yeah....sex is fun!

To excercise!

Some women swear its sex that keeps them fit! Whats the purpose of excercises? Isnt it to sweat and increase your heartbeat? Well....in case you've not noticed, sex does this too...just think..calories are being burnt while you're busy going to cloud 9! Especially when you take advantage of some funky sex positions.Amazing.

So my dears...for these reasons and more..Please try to have sex more...its natural and its beautiful....and above all these..its Godly. :).

Ttyl.
Love,
Tmon.

Substitute Series : Eye makeup remover.

Ever run out of eye makeup remover? I've discovered the perfect alternative for this..a cheaper alternative. And you might just have it at home.  Baby oil. Tried and tested,baby oil works wonderfully..even for long wear makeup.

baby oil and shampoo.

It removes as well as moisturizes your face. For eye makeup,simply soak cotton wool with the oil and place it on your closed eyes for a minute for it to seep through,then gently wipe it off.
If you feel your face is too greasy,simply use the baby shampoo to wash it. If its good enough for a baby's body,then its good enough for your face. All you need is just to lather and then rinse off.

Baby wipes are also perfect substitutes. They are cheaper than most makeup removing wipes and also milder on your skin.

So stop wasting money on high end products.  Get these pocket friendly alternatives instead.
Ttyl!,
Love, Tmon.

Ankara Gele..finally makes sense.

I've been having some trouble with tying ankara material gele. It was becoming quite embarrassing for me as I could tie proper gele very well. I decided to really put my heart into it last week and this was the result I got. Hope I tried small?

Really trying to figure out how to rotate this. (Yes,im a learner. Lol)

Now i'm very eager for the next ankara party. Lol. But what do you guys think? Hit or miss? Be sure to leave a comment and also follow my blog to get updates and also to encourage my ministry. Thank you! Lol.